last updated on: April 8, 2006

relationship counseling
  
   We work with couples
       married people
       domestic partners
       self-defined couples of any sort
   We meet with couples
to help their relationships
work better.
We use no standard
procedures;
like each individual,
each couple is unique.
We meet you and
your spouse or partner
and see your relationship
before us in the office.
We work all work together
to make the changes
that  you want to make.




Notes about
relationship counseling:


Relationship therapy varies in  length.  Sessions are usually  once a week and continue until  you feel it is time to stop, almost  always because things are  significantly better.

Along the way, as in the  relationship to that point, sometimes you will be angry and think the sessions are  not helping you or that the therapist prefers your partner or her/his point of view.

Then, after the next session, s/he will hold that point of view, and you will not. Such feelings are necessary within the process and they need not  overly concern you.

Overall, the therapist will identify with the feelings and  pont of view of each of you, and will see things from both perspectives.

In a first session, before confronting the problem(s) that lead ot your calling for an appointment, usually we review your childhood situations and events and history up to the point of your beoming involved with one another. Then we get an overview  of how each of you sees the current difficulties in the relationship.

Sometimes we ask if you'd like to complete the Myers-Briggs Type Inventory, but we won't require it.
The MBTI often helps
couples find words to label their personalities - their preferred ways of "being". No one is "right" or "wrong"
on the MBTI; all answers are okay.

It is okay if counselling sessions convince you that the relationship must end and it is even okay if you expect this outcome when you come for your first appointment.
Lets meet and see how things go.
We use the words therapy, counseling, and psychotherapy, as well as  marital therapy, marriage counseling, and relationship therapy/counseling to mean pretty much the same thing.